Embracing the Shadow

By now, Im sure that you have probably heard about the shadow. So what exaclty is this part of us and how do we begin to heal it? To put it simply, the shadow is the repressed parts of us. It consists of negaitve emotions ( rage, envy, selfishness etc) things that don’t sit well with our beliefs, pretty much all the things about us that we would like to deny having. The shadow is the "dark side" of us, its ok we all have a shadow side, no need to fear this. The sahdow side us of operates on its own without our full awarenesss which is what causes us some issues. It shows Its self in ways of us saying things involuntarily, Facial expressions etc.

When we remain unconscious of the shadow, it begins to cause us some issues. Things like our relationships become affected-that's usually the first tell tale sign. Shadow work isn't something that is popular, because really who likes to take a look at your flaws and weaknesses. However, when we acknowledge and accept our shadow, that's when we step into the healing. This allows us to focus on our strength, and gives us opportunities for growth and development.

So let's look at the upside of shedding light on the shadow:

Our relationships improve, we gain a clear perception of ourselves and the world around us, oue energy and physical health improve, we are able to integrate and feel a sense of wholeness, and we gain greater creativity.

Now, how do we work on the shadow? First off you want to make sure you are centred. The reason we do this is if you're not calm, clear and neutral, you will not be able to get constructive results. Self compassion! Without a sense of friendliness and compassion, it will be difficult to look at our darker stuff. Start by accepting that you are human. Remember that WE all have a shadow, so you're not alone. Next you want to have self awareness. Being able to see the sahdo, requires you to be self reflective. Being self aware, allows us to observe and accept the feelings and emotions without judgement.

Be honest! This is probably the most difficult part. Being raw and honest, even with ourselves requires courage. It can be very uncomfortable to be faced with all the parts you have disowned with yourself. We take all this “stuff” pack in a cute little box, label it shadow, and place it on the shelf. We don't think we will need to back in the box- so when we do it can be very difficult. For one to be able to address their attitudes, behaviour and dark thoughts and emotions is courageous.

If you have started this journey -CONGRATS!! If you're on the fence about it, let's chat!

Sending you light and love

Kelly